I never liked sitting by myself. Remember when you were in school waiting in the lunch line? I was never focused on what food I was getting. Especially in elementary school, I mean when you’re that young you eat anything. No friends, the food I was going to consume for lunch was not the object of my attention, but rather where I was going to be sitting was more important. It didn’t matter where I sat, as long as I wasn’t sitting alone.
I used to think, “Weird people sit alone.”
Today it seems that this idea is changing. It’s normal to sit by yourself. That’s right my six-year old self was wrong. Weird people don’t sit alone, but “cool” people sit alone. Studies show that we actually spend more time eating alone than we ever have before. I think one of the most crucial aspects of community is gathering around the table and enjoying a meal. (I’ve written about this previously http://billyheather.tumblr.com/post/155696107834/whos-at-your-table)
But don’t get me wrong my approach this morning is not to say we need to be away from people. We need people. Every single day. We need to talk to them, we need to listen to them, we need to love them. But I think there is an importance to healthy isolation.
I truly believe that there are moments in our lives when we need to take a step back and simply surrender to a moment of solitude. With so much going on around us, it seems we never are alone anymore. There’s a non-stop plethora of information coming into our minds every moment of every day.
Think about the last time you didn’t have anything to think about. Even when we’re not doing anything work-related or relationship-related, we still have these pieces of technology in our pockets to help us through moments of boredom. Isolating ourselves from the noise of the world is more difficult today than it ever has been before.